Fear & Guilt: How They Emerge With The Festive Season

Fear and guilt are two emotions that can come to the fore during the Festive Season. Fear is an assumption that you are about to experience through your senses in the future more pain than pleasure, more risks than rewards, more drawbacks than benefits from someone else or yourself.

How to face a social acquired fear and dissolve it:

During the Festive Season, a fear of certain social situations can become a common emotion, even though this is supposedly a time of celebration. Those who are not comfortable in social situations may fear the close social intimacy involved at this time of the year.

Just the opposite of social intimacy, loneliness, is another prominent fear that can occur at this time of the year. Those who are unable to spend the Festive Season with family, and those who do not have family to spend this festive time with, may experience the fear of being alone.

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How to dissolve the feeling of fear:

1. Strategise how you might reduce the probability of the feared event from taking place.

2. Set up contingency plans on how to act wisely if they do happen.

3. Review the benefits gained from any previous time either of the fears occurred.

4. Identify at least seven benefits or opportunities that would also probably emerge in the social intimacy situation or when you’re feeling socially alone.

Once the actual or potential benefits are equal or more than the assumed drawbacks the feeling of fear dissolves.

Getting over guilt at Christmas

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Guilt is another major emotion at this time of the year. I define guilt as an assumption that you have caused with your actions in the past more pain than pleasure to someone else or yourself.

Perhaps you are feeling guilt because you are trying to divide your time between loved ones. Maybe it’s for another reason altogether: perhaps it’s spending too much money on gifts, or over-indulging.

How to dissolve the feeling of guilt:

1. Identify at least seven benefits or opportunities to the affected parties involved that emerged when the actions or inactions leading to the feeling of guilt occurred.

2. Review the benefits gained to any previous parties involved from any previous times the actions or inactions occurred.

3. Identify alternative actions under similar future scenarios to allow for alternative and possibly more moderate responses in the future.

4. Ask any affected parties involved what you can do to either compensate for any misperceived grievances or have them realize the benefits or opportunities that are occurring, or will likely occur.

Remember, it’s important to honor the unique way in which you perceive a situation and act upon it. It’s also important to see both sides. Every crisis has an opportunity. When you take action, and balance out the perceptual equation most fear and guilt will fade.

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Who Is The Writer?

Dr John Demartini is a human behavior specialist, educator, international best-selling author and founder of the Demartini Institute. Visit Dr Demartini’s website for more information.

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