Finding Your Happy Place: Yes, It Really Does Exist

A little while ago I found myself on the hunt for my happy place. That place where everything is great, there’s not a stress in the world. There’s just kittens, puppies, candy floss, and gratuitous nudity.

My hunt took me to Google, where I actually managed to find a real happy place.

Happy, Texas (34°44.6′N 101°51.4′W ). Their motto is “the town without the frown” – that sounds good. Although I’m still thinking perhaps the PR machine is working overtime, because if it really is a little slice of utopia, I imagine that they’d have a population of more than 647.

So I decided to start looking at places I know.
Is it maybe Zell am See in Austria? My fav place to snowboard. Or perhaps Skerries, just south of Dublin, the location of my holiday home growing up (which, thankfully, is now a guesthouse). Maybe it’s not as far away as all that; maybe it’s simply lying at home in my wife’s arms, reading a book while listening to my kids playing outside. Hey, maybe it’s even simpler – maybe it’s just a long ride on a nice day on one of my motorbikes.

Or maybe it’s all of the above.

Yeah, I think that’s it. You see, it’s called your happy place for a reason: the operative part is you. I even think there’s an easy trick to finding it. We talk about the pursuit of happiness, but we’ve got it all wrong. The real pursuit should be the removal of unhappiness. Happy is simply the place where you don’t allow the crap to sneak in.

Think about it: being deeply happy and being carefree almost always go together. This means that the buck stops here. The only common denominator in your happiness is you. There are other people who can contribute in a big way – they may even be compulsory, but they can’t take you there. Happy is a place, not a feeling, and if you want to get there, you have to decide to go. There’s that famous quote that says that you can take a horse to water, but you can’t make it drink. Sure, that’s true, but taking the horse to water will never work – unless  the horse is THIRSTY. There are many people who simply enjoy revelling in their misery; they will never be happy because they are not thirsty for happiness.

If this is you, stop waiting for happy to find you and decide to find it yourself. I’m not suggesting it’s easy, just that it’s worthwhile. You are the proprietor of your own happy place, and outside it you should hang a big sign that says “right of admission reserved”. This is your haven, where only the good stuff gets in. It’s your house and you can do the housekeeping in your birthday suit; in fact, I find that happiness and nudity often go hand in hand – see what I did there 😉

It exists in every single one of us, and it rocks; we just need to find it, and clean out the cobwebs.

Who is the writer?

Richard Mulholland is en entrepreneur, speaker and father. He owns Missing Link, a presentation company, and co-owns 21Tanks, a perspective innovation lab. You can read more of his ramblings at the following link or follow him on Twitter at @RichMullholland.

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