Quit These Things Today To Live A Happier Life
Quit is quite a strong word. Because of this, many of us struggle to do it, especially when it counts the most. Quitting is hard because you always feel as if you’re already in too deep. I’ll bet you nine times out of ten, you’re not. Trust me, if you keep finding yourself ‘stuck’ in something, then do your health a favor and quit it now.
I think quitting seems so scary because most of us grew up being told not to quit. That you should never be a quitter. And this mantra lives deeply within us in our daily lives. Therefore, every time we choose to leave a situation, we burden ourselves with a rush of unnecessary guilt. And this could be with anything. Maybe you want to give up a boring book. So what? It’s not exciting you in any kind of way. Why should you continue?
However, this doesn’t mean you need to cop out of everything you start because it’s challenging. Your parents were right to tell you to be persistent. After all, grit is what gets you places in the end. But, sometimes quitting is the most effective course of action. Usually, your gut knows when it’s time, you just need to listen to it. Perhaps it’s a failed project, a toxic job, or a poisonous relationship, quitting can be a virtue.
Quit Today, Live Tomorrow
Quitting might be a challenge for most, but it comes naturally to others. Interestingly, certain people can’t seem to get rid of the feeling of being stuck. Research from the University of Rochester found that people are motivated by either ‘approach goals’ or ‘avoidance goals.’
People who are motivated by approach goals appreciate challenges and don’t waste time trying to solve problems that simply don’t have a feasible solution. This means that they know when to quit. On the other hand, those who get motivated by avoidance goals worry a lot more about failing. These people fear failure and will do anything to avoid it. Therefore, they will keep trying at things, long after logic states it’s time to move on. This is typically a much less productive way to work.
Therefore, knowing when to quit is a skill. With time and practice, you can learn it and get better at implementing it. If you tend to get stuck on things long after it’s obvious that what you’re doing isn’t working, you can train yourself to do better. This means you need to quit more. I am not joking either. Luckily, life provides plenty of opportunities to do this.
These are some things you should learn to quit.
Successful people generally have a very good sense of self-confidence. In fact, most successes stem from confidence. There have been studies conducted on people who have been promoted in different companies. This research discovered that women only applied when they met 100% of the criteria for the job they wanted, whilst men applied when they met 60% of the criteria. These researchers concluded that one of the reasons men dominated the upper sections of the company is that they were willing to try for more positions than females.
Therefore, confidence is probably all it takes to get to the next level. However, it’s up to you to fully believe this. If you doubt yourself, it won’t work. Faking confidence might not produce the best results, but it’s still better than nothing at all.
Everything you do in life is generally harder than it seems. Accept this and you’ll be fine. Stop putting things off and get it done. Any kind of change will be challenging.
It’s even harder to better yourself. It requires a lot of guts to go for what you want and so is the work to make it happen. When things are hard, it’s always easier to decide to tackle them tomorrow. Usually what happens is that you procrastinate tomorrow and it never happens in the end. Don’t fall victim to these excuses. This means that either you don’t really want to do it or that you want the results without the hard work that comes along with it.
3. Limiting Yourself
Stop telling yourself that you no longer have a choice because you always do.
Yes, sometimes it’s difficult to choose. Especially when both options seem just as bad as each other. But, pretending that there isn’t one makes you a victim who is voluntarily acting helpless. Doing this means you have given up power. If you want a high-level of success, then you have to quit giving your power away. Own it!
4. Quit Repeating Mistakes
What’s the point in making the same mistake one after the next?
I agree with Albert Einstein. He said that insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result. He is spot on. However, people remain determined to believe that two plus two will eventually equal five.
Regardless, if you keep the same approach, you’ll keep getting the same results. No matter how much you hope for the opposite, if you want different results, you need to change your approach, even when it’s painful to do so.
Quit being lazy now! Never allow yourself to think that everything will just magically fall into place and happen on its own. Very rarely does this happen. You need to take action for change to occur.
It can be tempting to leave everything up to fate. In reality, you have to work hard to make it work. If you get complacent, you will quickly feel the after effects. For example, if you feel you deserve a promotion, don’t rely on your team leaders or directors to notice. Instead, be proactive and take responsibility. Own your space. Make it happen.
If your colleagues are walking all over you or dumping their work onto you. And you’re willing to do it. Stop complaining. Sort it out. Only you can put an end to it,
The ‘Yes’ Man
Don’t be one of these. Quit agreeing to everything that comes your way. You can say no whenever you want.
Every yes you make is a tradeoff of your time. It means you’ll need to say no to something else. If you say yes to the gym, it means no to time with your partner or family. Researchers found that the more difficulty you have with saying ‘no,’ the more likely you are to experience stress, burnout, and even depression.
To say ‘no’ is an art and one that we should all learn to master. It’s a very powerful word and you must not be afraid to use it especially when it counts most. When you need to say ‘no,’avoid phrases like, ‘I don’t think I can or I’m not certain.’ Saying ‘no’ to a new commitment honors your existing commitments and gives you the opportunity to successfully fulfill them.
Therefore, learning to say ‘no,’ frees yourself from unnecessary constraints and gives you time and energy for the important things in life.
There are so many ways that we get in the way of achieving our own successes in life. We doubt ourselves, we decide that something is just too hard, or we tell ourselves that we’ll worry about it tomorrow. To really experience true success then you need to stop focusing so much on what you should be doing. And instead, take a really good look at the things you should quit doing.
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