What A Jade Egg Can Do For Your Sex Life
You want me to put that where? A small egg shaped piece of jade could make a positive difference to your pelvic health and your sex life.
Mention sex and you have everyone’s attention, mention pelvic floor health and you’ve lost them. Yet you can’t have one without the other. As well as low libido, pelvic floor problems are also linked to vaginal dryness and womb prolapse. Instead of suffering in silence or having unnecessary surgery women now have access to a revolutionary tool.
What is the Pelvic Floor?
Much like a hammock, the pelvic floor muscles line the base of the pelvic bowl, supporting the organs above. This ‘sling’ holds your uterus, bladder and other organs in place. Healthy pelvic floor muscles help stabilize the hip joints, and act as a lymphatic pump for the pelvis. They also ensure proper control over your bladder. The deeper internal pubocoxygeal muscles (PC) are the ones that that stretch during birth and the ones that contract during sexual pleasure.
Considering this area works extremely hard, especially in women, it’s surprising it only gets attention during sex, pap smears, or when there is an obvious problem. Yet over the years many factors can inhibit pelvic floor health.
If these supportive muscles hold the abdominal organs, what happens if the weight is increased? Of course physically putting on weight is certainly one problem, but slim people can have just as many issues. Between consistent sitting, slouching, wearing high heels, shallow breathing, lack of exercise and a weak lower back, the pressure upon the pelvic floor can increase exponentially. Other factors such as stress, traumatic birth and a compromised sex life also play an important role. Eventually the pelvic floor suffers from loss of tone, flexibility and range of motion, as well as deep tension. The pelvic floor is essential for our vitality. It’s time we paid it some much-needed attention.
Symptoms of Compromised Pelvic Floor
- Low libido
- Lower back pain
- Pelvic pain
- Vaginal dryness
- Tight breathing
- Prolapsed bladder
- Prolapsed womb
The Jade Egg
“Almost everyone is curious about feeling better in their body, and understanding their sensuality and their sexuality from a place that can be comfortable and familiar as well as healing,” shares Saida Desilets (PhD) a French-Canadian transpersonal psychologist. Desilets runs international workshops supporting women in creating a healthy relationship to their own body and their sexuality. The jade egg is a major component of her workshops. “The exercises that we do with the jade egg really help women become masterful of their sexual body, their pelvic floor and also their pleasure sensation.”
The jade egg is a Taoist practice that originated in the royal Chinese courts thousands of years ago. The practice involves a series of pelvic floor exercises done with a small piece of jade shaped as an egg, which is inserted vaginally. This little tool is powerful enough to prevent the need for certain surgeries as well as turn on what you might have thought was the lost ability to experience pleasure.
Saida’s perks of the jade egg
- Re-pattern cellular memory in the vagina & sexual organ.
- Reactivate a deep, somatic connection between the conscious mind and the pelvis & genitals (this is broken early in life through how we are socialized as girls),
- Innervate the pelvis & genitals. This means creating more nerves, more pleasure-pathways which leads to expanded experiences of orgasm, and
- Re-establish sexual vitality. This is for all ages, but especially for women who have had experiences of atrophy, vaginal wall thinning, vaginal dryness, etc.
The presence of the jade egg creates an internal massage, which can help to release overworked muscles as well as wake up under-active ones. It also increases blood circulation, which brings nutrition. This in turn helps to balance hormones, increase fertility and generally support the body in doing what it supposed to. There is no restriction: jade eggs can be used from teenage years onwards.
“Our sexuality is where we all began, we are sexual beings – so if we don’t heal our relationship to our sexuality then it is impossible for us to be fully present, here in our bodies, in our totality” Shares Juliet Terblanche, owner of Yoni Eggs South Africa. “Sexuality seems to be the taboo, forgotten, forbidden area of things; but actually it is the key, it’s our life-force, it’s who we are, it’s innate. It’s time we dropped all the shame around it, but this requires a lot of sensitivity, a lot of grace and compassion. AndI think that’s something that a jade egg practice can help to teach us, but in an incredibly gentle way. Most importantly the jade egg is bringing awareness to this area of the body. It’s bringing awareness to how disconnected we have become from our bodies and how we have split our psyches and our sexuality, when actually they are the same thing.Working with the jade egg helps us to heal that rift. It brings us home to ourselves. ”
“There’s a core need for a woman to feel that her body and her pleasure is a birthright,” Desliets reminds us. “Women need to understand that they are not broken.”
Pleasure at Every Age
Feeling passionate is something that younger women are supposed to feel, but why can’t we feel passionate our whole lives? “Most of us are in pleasure anorexia, we choose to starve ourselves of delight. Pleasure is ageless and our birthright. Menopause can be a juicy sexual experience even more so than during early adulthood,” explains Desilets. “Having energy, feeling juicy and turned on is reliant on your emotional and hormonal health. Pleasure is at the center of a healthy immune system and robust psychology. Vaginal dryness isn’t a result of menopause it’s a result of stress. Our hormonal and nervous system structure changes as we age, therefore our sexual experiences and expressions will change, but in a healthy way.”
Preventing and Healing Surgery with the Jade Egg
“With lack of pelvic floor rehabilitation post-birth, or simply as women age, many women are suffering from prolapsed wombs and having hysterectomies. There is a belief surgery is the normal protocol, but there are so many side effects,” says Terblanche. Women are in danger of further organ prolapse, low libido and painful sex. Plus the uterus has many more roles than just making babies; it also plays a role in a woman’s orgasm. “We all know that prevention is always better than cure. Why not bring strength back to the area, bring more sensitivity and more dexterity to the area, it’s a win-win on all levels.”
Jade eggs also help with post surgical rehab. “My clients have been able to transform their bodies in ways that are quiet remarkable,” says Desilets. “For instance, there’s a woman in her mid-70s who followed the program only for 3 months who re-established pelvic enlivenment to the point of being able to have a younger boyfriend and wow him. This is actually fairly common in my experience.”
Emotions Make Sex
“I think most women would agree that it’s almost impossible to separate their sexuality from their feelings,” encourages Desilets. “We like to feel good, we want to know we are respected, adored, we are cared for, we are being heard and we are being honoured. When these aspects are in place our body knows and naturally will open and be much more responsive than if we are afraid or feel disrespected. The jade egg practice allows women to really understand “how I feel in myself directly impacts my sexual response and vice versa”. In learning this, a woman becomes very masterful about her path of pleasure delight and also health and wellbeing.”