Get Gutsy! It’s Time To Start Listening To Your Gut
Get your gut into shape! It is time we begin to listen to what our gut is telling us.
I’m a married man. For those of you keeping score, this is marriage number two. Had you asked me after the first time, I’d have told you that number two would never happen. Not because the first time was terrible; it really wasn’t. It just didn’t work out.
Get Gutsy: Could It Have Worked?
Possibly. However, we decided to trust our guts and call it a day. This happened over a brunch at a well-known Cape
Town café. We didn’t shout and scream; we simply made a decision, went for a walk, and then I got home and moved out.
No, the reason I didn’t think I’d be married again had nothing to do with the fact that I was anti the idea of it; it was more that I’d chalked my marriage up as my first real big failure in life. I didn’t want to give myself a chance to fail like that again.
So What Is It That Made Me Do It?
Honestly, I decided to get gutsy and trust it again. When I met Jasmine, this crazy, beautiful ball of fiery energy, I was completely taken off guard. She exploded into my life with a combination of sex, love, music… and baked goods. It was insane. I knew I didn’t want to settle down for the long term, and just kept telling myself that I’d stick it out for one more week.
I remember this one time I was heading off to New Orleans… I’d decided that we should break up before I left. So, as we were heading up the airport approach road, I did just that. Strangely, when I arrived (minus clothes, as they had been stolen en route), there was a loving message from Jazz saying that she missed me and couldn’t wait to see me again. To this day she says that I must have done such a botch-up job trying to break up that she had no idea I was doing it. She just thought it was a kinda awkward, sweet goodbye.
From then I decided to just go with the flow – failure be damned. I’m now years into this and I couldn’t be happier. We still laugh every day.
She’s still bloody crazy. In fact, the only thing that’s really changed is the baked goods – although that was a sanction imposed by my waistline.
Get Gutsy Too, It Might Change Your Life…
I recently decided to make another big life change on the work front (I have no doubt I’ll tell you about it soon), but the decision, while different, came from the same place: my gut. When we’re young, we trust our gut all the time, but as we get older, we second-guess ourselves far too much. We trust our head. We trust logic. Well, logic is going out of the window, too.
I’m sitting here a very happy man because I made these decisions the way I’d have made them when I was 22, and not 42 – and it’s been liberating. Try it. One way or another, it will change your life. Oh, and my ex trusted her gut and is now married again too. He’s a great guy. All’s well…
Just like decisions rely on our gut feelings, so do our bodies. The gut is and will always be vital to our lifestyles.
Do you have a keen interest in your gut? Then, you need to read, Getting To The Gut Of Depression.