How To Set For Success And Fulfillment In 2019
There may not be a textbook to guide us through life’s rough patches, but there are some basic rules that may lead to more success and successful living.
One of the most important steps you can take to set yourself on a path to greater happiness is to stop and do a daily meditation. Use this as an opportunity to introspect. Ask yourself, “What are the highest priority things I can do to achieve the most fulfillment today?” By finding what gives you the most meaning in your life, you ultimately maximize your potential and, yes, gain more fulfillment.
So how can you set out for success?
If your day starts with this meditation, be sure to end it by documenting what you have accomplished during the day. You’ll find that if you have stuck to your priorities, you’ll have a lot to be grateful for – but, the opposite is also true. This document is important for another reason, too: it provides a metric to measure how close you are to achieving your goals and enjoying wsuccess with your planning.
If these two actions bookend your day, how to fill the time in between? First of all, by having the courage to say ‘no thank you’ to the things that do not fit into your list of priorities. This applies to everything, from the people you’re with to the materials you read; even your entertainment. You’ll find that everyone you encounter will try to project their values on to you, because no one is dedicated to your fulfillment – only their own. Since it’s your life, you have to decide to opt out of the things that are not meaningful to you so that you have more space and time for the things that are. And, essentially, if what you’re doing doesn’t contribute in any way to your family or society, then it doesn’t have meaning.
Being able to do this requires that you let go of your fear of rejection. You have to be willing to stand out rather than fit in.
These actions essentially create a circle: setting your priorities, fulfilling them and then documenting them. You’ll find that every time you do this, making time for your main priorities and casting aside things that aren’t important, your self-worth will increase.
That said, it’s vital to remain flexible: if an opportunity in line with your priorities arises, grab it. Give yourself permission to re-prioritize your day. Be fluid, but make sure that all decisions you take are based on those priorities. If it looks as though you might upset someone by taking advantage of those opportunities, weigh up the consequences. See if you can find a way to mitigate them, and take accountability if you feel the reward outweighs the risk.
Finally, instead of seeing challenges as obstacles, find ways that they can be useful in helping you meet your mission. Try to understand how unforeseen events may serve you, because even though you may not be able to see the positive impact now, the time will come when you can.
Who Is The Writer?
Dr John Demartini is a human behavior specialist, educator, international best-selling author and founder of the Demartini Institute. Visit Dr Demartini’s website for more information.
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